Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Deciphering Dreams...

DrEaMs...

Images, Ideas, Emotions, Sensations...


Dreams occur involuntarily in the mind and the content and purpose of dreams are not definitively understood. The scientific study of dreams is called oneirology. Before we go into trying to understand our dream let's understand our sleep.

Our sleep cycle consists of 4 stages that lasts about 90-120 minutes and repeats themselves throughout the night. This does not include the part when we are falling asleep or may I say getting into sleep.


Stage 1: Light Sleep - body preparing itself to get to deep sleep
NREM - Non-Rapid eye movement, muscle relaxation, lowered body temperature and slowed heart rate

Stage 2: Completely Asleep
NREM, further drop in temperature & muscle relaxation, immune system starts repairing the day's damages and endocrine glands secrete growth hormones.

Stage 3: Deep Sleep
NREM, and metabolic levels get extremely slow.

Stage 4: REM Sleep - restoration, revitalized and emotions being fine tuned
REM - Rapid eye movement, blood pressure rises, heart rate speeds up, respiration become erratic, brain activity increases, involuntary muscles become paralyzed.


Dream happens mostly in the REM Stage, if you are awakened during this stage, you are likely to remember your dream. A person can have several different dreams per night as this cycle repeats as many as 7 times. Some people believe that they simply do not dream, when in reality they just don't remember.

Dreams are seen as a connection to the unconscious. They range from normal and ordinary to overly surreal and bizarre. Dreams can have varying natures, such as frightening, exciting, magical, melancholic, adventurous, or sexual. The events in dreams are generally outside the control of the dreamer, with the exception of lucid dreaming, where the dreamer is self-aware. Dreams can at times make a creative thought occur to the person or give a sense of inspiration.


So what do our dreams actually mean???
Since 5000BC, people have tried to decipher them...
Dreams are direct messages from god or the dead and that they predicted the future!
Dream are manifestations of our deepest desires and anxieties!


Let's see what the experts has to say...

Alfred Adler (1870 -1937) believes that dreams are an important tool to mastering control over your waking lives. They are problem-solving devices.  Dreams need to be brought to the conscious and interpreted so that better understanding can be shed on your problems. It is important to learn from your dreams and incorporate them into your waking life. Adler believes that there is a correlation between your dreams and the problems in your daily life. The more dreams you have, the more problems you are likely to have. Conversely, the less dreams you have, the less problems you have and the more psychologically healthy you are. 

Adler's views on dreams are that they are an open pathway toward your true thoughts, emotions and actions. In your dreams, you clearly see your aggressive impulses and desires. Dreams are also a way of overcompensating for the shortcomings in your waking life. For example, if you are unable to stand up to your boss in your waking life, then you may find it easier to lash out at the boss within the comfort and safety of your dream. Dreams offer some sort of satisfaction that is more socially acceptable.


Considered the father of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud (1856-1939) revolutionizes the study of dreams with his work The Interpretation Of Dreams. Freud begins to analyze dreams in order to understand aspects of personality as they relate to pathology.  He believes that nothing you do occurs by chance; every action and thought is motivated by your unconscious at some level. In order to live in a civilized society, you have a tendency to hold back our urges and repress our impulses. 

One way these urges and impulses are released is through your dreams. Because the content of the unconscious may be extremely disturbing or harmful, Freud believes that the unconscious expresses itself in a symbolic language. Freud categorizes aspects of the mind into three parts:  
Id - centered around primal impulses, pleasures, desires, unchecked urges and wish fulfillment.  
Ego - concerned with the conscious, the rational, the moral and the self-aware aspect of the mind.  
Superego - the censor for the id, which is also responsible for enforcing the moral codes of the ego. When you are awake,  the impulses and desires of the id are suppressed by the superego. Through dreams, you are able to get a glimpse into your unconscious or the id. Because your guards are down during the dream state, your unconscious has the opportunity to act out and express the hidden desires of the id. However, the desires of the id can, at times, be so disturbing and even psychologically harmful that a "censor" comes into play and translates the id's disturbing content into a more acceptable symbolic form. This helps to preserve sleep and prevent you from waking up shocked at the images. As a result, confusing and cryptic dream images occur.
According to Freud, the reason you struggle to remember your dreams, is because the superego is at work. It is doing its job by protecting the conscious mind from the disturbing images and desires conjured by the unconscious. 
 

Calvin S. Hall, Jr. (1909-1985) focuses his study of dreams on the content, aptly referred to as content analysis. Because dreams are in essence thoughts, it is a cognitive process. Dreams provide a map or route to the inaccessible regions in your mind, otherwise known as the unconscious. Hall believes dreams are the best way to discovering personal thoughts and to explain your behavior. Dreams reveal things about yourself, not hide them. Hall categorizes dreams into one of five principle areas of life.
1. Concepts of Self refer to the types or number of roles you play in your dreams.
2. Concepts of other people are the roles other people play in your dreams. Consider your feelings toward them and how you interact with them. 
3. Concepts of the world represent the dream surrounding and landscape. The adjectives you use to describe your dreamscape is how you view the world. 
4. Concepts of impulses, prohibitions and penalties indicate your behavior and how it is ruled by impulses and punishment.
5. Concepts of problems and conflicts symbolize your struggles, issues and problems you are facing in your waking life. These dream try to offer insight and resolution to your conflicts.
By utilizing these five concepts, Hall believes that you will be able to analyze the dream content and trace your way toward the inner workings of your unconscious.


Like his mentor Sigmund Freud, Carl Gustav Jung (1875-1960) also believes in the existence of the unconscious. However, he does not see the unconscious as animalistic, instinctual, or sexual; he sees it as more spiritual. Eventually, Jung split with Freud due to their differing views on dreams. 
According to Jung, dreams are a way of communicating and acquainting yourself with the unconscious. Dreams are not attempts to conceal your true feelings from the waking mind, but rather they are a window to your unconscious. They serve to guide the waking self to achieve wholeness and offer a solution to a problem you are facing in your waking life.
Jung views the ego as your sense of self and how you portray yourself to the world.  Part of Jung's theory is that all  things can be viewed as paired opposites: good/evil, male/female, or love/hate. So working in opposition to the ego, is the "counterego" or what he refers to as the shadow.  The shadow represents the rejected aspects of yourself that you do not wish to acknowledge. The shadow is more primitive, somewhat uncultured,  and a little awkward.
 Frederick Perls (1893-1970) iss  the founder of Gestalt therapy.  Gestalt therapy seeks to fill your emotional voids so that you can then become a unified whole. Perls believes that dreams contain the rejected, disowned parts of the Self. Every character and every object in a dream represents an aspect of the Self. You are the hurricane, you are the attacker, you are the broken down car, you are the bridge, and you are the dusty book. Perls rejects the notion that dreams are part of a universal symbolic language. He believes that each dream is unique to the individual who dreams it.
In order to discover what aspect of yourself is being disowned, Perls believes that it is important to retell your dream in the present tense and act it out accordingly. It is important to verbalize how each and every component in your dream felt, even inanimate objects. Reenact the dream and take on the role of the different characters and objects. Start a dialogue with the dream object and express how you felt toward each other.  By taking on a different  role within your dream and reenact it, you may then be able to acknowledge and realize feelings that you may have overlooked or buried. Your dream literally comes alive.


Now the best part...


Here are some common recurring dream motifs and their interpretation:

Pursuit or attack.

The hunter represents a part of ourselves we are afraid of. An extreme version of unacceptable part of our personality, which will benefit us if we expressed it appropriately.

Free fall.

Feel heavy, lack of support, worry about something? How to feel free, lightweight? Maybe we should ‘land’ in reality?

Car out of control.

Is life too fast? Are we losing control of things? How can we get things more slowly and just calmly enjoy the trip?

Unprepared, late, failure to test.

Feel unprepared for an approaching event? Do we worry without reason or really want more preparation to feel more confident and do a good job?

Feeling unable to speak or move.

We feel that we are trapped in our lives with no way out. It goes nowhere and we can’t act according to our true feelings.

Shame of being naked in public, although nobody seems to notice it.

In which part of our life do we feel lack of confidence and skills? The fact that others do not notice our shame means that only we see ourselves like this and usually are wrong about it.

Trapped, locked in.

When do we feel trapped/stuck in life? How to create a new perspective and explore new ways to act?

Unable to see people’s faces but knowing who they are.

This pattern may have several interpretations. It may refer to ourselves, symbolizing the search of our identity, the process of exploring our own personality.
Also it may reflect our relations with other people: feeling alone in the crowd, unable to reach understanding with other people, feeling different from them. According to Sigmund Freud, faces in dreams represent the individuality of people. Seeing the world without faces in our dreams, we deprive the others of their individuality due to our fears, lack of confidence, problems we face dealing with people in our life. It works as a defence mechanism which helps us avoid being hurt by others.

Being lost, unable to reach a destination or fulfill a task.

Dreams of being lost and unable to find the way somewhere speak of frustration. Sometimes we want something or someone to go/act in a certain way, but they don’t. It certainly brings us disappointment and frustration.
Moreover, such kind of dreams may have to do with the feeling of ‘losing’ ourselves. Perhaps, it may be connected with a significant change in our life (for example, a loss of something or someone important for us) or we just feel ‘following a wrong path’. Sometimes our subconscious tries to tell us that what we do is not what we really want from life.

If you want more information on detail dreams, go to http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/

I wish I could remember my dreams... =D

Sunday, May 06, 2012

Life's Not the Same Anymore...

Yes... my life has changed!!! It's much much more than what I expected... 
I am now a MARRIED WOMAN!!!

Gosh, sometimes when I drive to work, I wonder if I'm dreaming... WAHEGURU has been great to me, he has showered me with so much my entire life and now he has given me the most precious gift ever... my dearest husband. He who completes me, loves me and makes everyday magnificent.

5-5-2012

By the end of this day, I could not ask for more...
I am so so grateful to god to have lead me to you...
Grateful to give me the perfect person, more than what I had hoped for
Grateful that our families join together in our happiness
Grateful that everything done well by thy grace
Thank you Thank you Thank you