Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Coffee!!! Goats love them..I like to move it move it...

Surprising to many Punjabis, I am neither a Tea addict nor a coffee addict.
I love Milo but I can live without that too...

Day 2 (19 Aug 2014) - Exercise check; Pray check; Water In Progress

Here's some interesting facts I found online...

Monday, August 18, 2014

Motivate Myself

Hey Hey Hey I'm back...
Yes Yes Yes, I am serious about jump starting back my blog. Of course I can't be doing it daily, I will try my best at least once a week or better more =).

Hmmm... Motivate myself...
That is my aim this year!!!

I have had many ideas and thought on how to improve but I have never been so strict on following them. In other words I had many help in the distraction sections....He he he
So this time I am going to write it down in my blog and keep track as many times as I can...

I will start by stating my initial goals:

GOAL 1: Exercise everyday even though it comprises of a few stretches and no; house work does not qualify; well except washing then bathroom, mopping the house, gardening, and etc. =P

GOAL 2: Pray everyday; will target for morning Japji Sahib at least... It really gives a lot of peace

GOAL 3: Drink lots of water; I tend to forget this to the MAX...

Stage 1 Weight Loss: 13 kgs...

I have many more goals but I will start of with these 3...
Let's see how I do ...

Day 1 (18 Aug 2014) - Exercise check; Pray check; Water check

Day 1 looking good, hope I can keep this up daily. The reason I want to do these is one main reason, getting healthy, I am not on any medication but have been monitoring my bp and diabetic...which have been high recently. The only thing I am pending to do is get batteries for my weighing machine.

Dang dang dang,.....my WEIGHT has been over over over PHEW!!!...
I feel much better then a few months ago but not sure how much I lost since my pregnancy and miscarriage.

If I loose this 13 kgs... I would be lighter than I was ever in more than 5 years.

So everyone pray for me...he he he

Wednesday, August 13, 2014

Life has its ups and downs

Life has been great and wonderful!!!

Even though there are times, we ought to think we want to give up, either strangle our self or someone else for whatever matter. Anger Sadness Guilt Weakness Depression Sickness can sometimes bring you so down you feel why is this happening to you. I too had those times. A turbulence raging in my head... PHEW!!!

But everything in life has a silver lining. I am happy and thankful I have a wonderful family.
My dearest husband to loves me, my cute adorable son, my parents and sibling, my parent-in-laws and sibling-in-laws. They are all wonderful people. I thank the almighty Waheguru, who has blessed me with this wonderful life.

I have been so stressed with so many matters... and after a few days or quite time alone... I got to get myself back on track.... So here I am getting myself on track....

I am going to start back by blogging, that's for sure!!! Blogging actually is a manner of stress relief, which need most. The only problem is I need to manage my time properly....between being a wife, a mother, a housewife, a daughter, a sibling and a software developer.

So I am going to use this blogging to continue my crazeee posting and keep track of my targets.

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Our Song - Jugni Ji Chambay di Booti

I am not sure if any of you know what is our (me and my husband's) favorite song. If you had attended my wedding I think you would know. Surprisingly it is not the song me and my husband danced on at the wedding reception. He had planned to dance on Tujme Rab Dikhta but ended with a different song.

Our song is definitely forever Jugni Ji Chambay Di Booti !!! I LOVE IT!!!


Alif allah chambay di booti, tey meray murshid mann vich lai hoo
My master has planted the fragrant seed of love in my heart

Ho nafi uss baat da paani dey kay
Which flourished with modesty, piety and acceptance of his existence

Har ragaay harjai hoo
My God is present in every throbbing pulse

Ho joog joog jeevay mera murshid sohna
My spiritual guide is ever-present

Hatay jiss ay booti lai ho
The one who blew life into me

(chorus # 1)
Pir meraya jugni ji
I have the spirit of my guide

Ae way allah waliyan di jugni ji 2x
The spirit of all the messengers who brought His message to this Earth

Ae way nabbi pak di jugni ji 2x
The spirit of Holy Prophet

Ae way maula ali wali jugni ji 2x
The spirit of Ali and his followers

Ae way meray pir di jugni ji 2x
The spirit of my saint

Ae way saaray sabaz di jugni ji 2x
The spirit of all his words

Oooo Dum gutkoon, dum gutkoon, dum gutkoon, dum gootkun… karay Saeein
Everytime I think of you God, my heart flutters

Parhay tay kalma nabi da Parhay saeein pir merya
So I recite the kalma whenever I think of God

(chrous #1 repeat)

Jugni taar khaeein vich thaal
O my creation, share whatever you have

Chad duniya dey janjaal
Remove yourself from worldly concerns

Kuch ni nibna bandiya naal
There is nothing that you can get from other human beings that you can take to the after-life

Rakhi saabat sidh amaal
Just keep you actions and intentions pure

(chorus # 1 repeat)

Jugni dig payee vich roi
So absorbed was the creation that she stumbled into a ditch

Othay ro ro kamli hoi
There she wailed relentlessly

Oddi vaath naye lainda koi
But there was no one who enquired about her

Tey kalmay binna nai mildi toi
Remember, there is no salvation for anyone without remembering your creator
(chorus #1 repeat)

Ho wanga charha lo kuriyon
Put on your bangles, girls

Meray daata dey darbaar dian
Those that you get at your Master’s shrines

Ho naa kar teeya khair piyari
Daughter, don’t be proud of your youth

Maan daindiya galaryaan
Your mother scoffs and scolds you

Din din talhi juwani jaandi
That with each passing day, your youth slips by

Joon sohna puthia lariyaan
Even gold when put in the furnance moulds itself, there is absolutely no permanence

Aurat marad, shehzaday sohney
Women, men are like so beautiful

O moti, O laa lariyaan
Like pearls, like the gems

Sir da sarfa kar naa jairey
Those who are not self-centered

Peen prem pya lariyan
They are the ones who truly love the humanity

O daatay day darbaan chaa akho
Whenever you visit the darbar of any saint

Pawan khair sawa lariyan
God fulfils all your wishes and showers you with his blessings

(arif plus meesha)
(chorus 2)

O wanga charha lo kuriyon meray daata tey darbar diyan
Put on your bangles, girls … Those that you get at your Master’s shrines

O wangha charha lo kuriyon meray daata tey darbar diyan
Put on your bangles, girls … Those that you get at your Master’s shrines
(chorus 2 repeat)

Dum gutkoon, dum gutkoon, dum gootkoon, gootkoon gootkon
(chorus 1 repeat)
Jugni ji
Jugni ji
Jugni ji…

Friday, March 01, 2013

My Thirty Third Birthday...

This is my FIRST birthday as a wife and soon to be mom!!!
My dearest love of my life, my sweetheart husband is so sweet, he got me a bouquet of flowers.

Didn't feel like going to work leaving the flowers at home... He he...

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Deciphering Dreams...


Images, Ideas, Emotions, Sensations...

Dreams occur involuntarily in the mind and the content and purpose of dreams are not definitively understood. The scientific study of dreams is called oneirology. Before we go into trying to understand our dream let's understand our sleep.

Our sleep cycle consists of 4 stages that lasts about 90-120 minutes and repeats themselves throughout the night. This does not include the part when we are falling asleep or may I say getting into sleep.

Stage 1: Light Sleep - body preparing itself to get to deep sleep
NREM - Non-Rapid eye movement, muscle relaxation, lowered body temperature and slowed heart rate

Stage 2: Completely Asleep
NREM, further drop in temperature & muscle relaxation, immune system starts repairing the day's damages and endocrine glands secrete growth hormones.

Stage 3: Deep Sleep
NREM, and metabolic levels get extremely slow.

Stage 4: REM Sleep - restoration, revitalized and emotions being fine tuned
REM - Rapid eye movement, blood pressure rises, heart rate speeds up, respiration become erratic, brain activity increases, involuntary muscles become paralyzed.

Dream happens mostly in the REM Stage, if you are awakened during this stage, you are likely to remember your dream. A person can have several different dreams per night as this cycle repeats as many as 7 times. Some people believe that they simply do not dream, when in reality they just don't remember.

Dreams are seen as a connection to the unconscious. They range from normal and ordinary to overly surreal and bizarre. Dreams can have varying natures, such as frightening, exciting, magical, melancholic, adventurous, or sexual. The events in dreams are generally outside the control of the dreamer, with the exception of lucid dreaming, where the dreamer is self-aware. Dreams can at times make a creative thought occur to the person or give a sense of inspiration.

So what do our dreams actually mean???
Since 5000BC, people have tried to decipher them...
Dreams are direct messages from god or the dead and that they predicted the future!
Dream are manifestations of our deepest desires and anxieties!

Let's see what the experts has to say...

Alfred Adler (1870 -1937) believes that dreams are an important tool to mastering control over your waking lives. They are problem-solving devices.  Dreams need to be brought to the conscious and interpreted so that better understanding can be shed on your problems. It is important to learn from your dreams and incorporate them into your waking life. Adler believes that there is a correlation between your dreams and the problems in your daily life. The more dreams you have, the more problems you are likely to have. Conversely, the less dreams you have, the less problems you have and the more psychologically healthy you are. 

Adler's views on dreams are that they are an open pathway toward your true thoughts, emotions and actions. In your dreams, you clearly see your aggressive impulses and desires. Dreams are also a way of overcompensating for the shortcomings in your waking life. For example, if you are unable to stand up to your boss in your waking life, then you may find it easier to lash out at the boss within the comfort and safety of your dream. Dreams offer some sort of satisfaction that is more socially acceptable.

Considered the father of psychoanalysis, Sigmund Freud (1856-1939) revolutionizes the study of dreams with his work The Interpretation Of Dreams. Freud begins to analyze dreams in order to understand aspects of personality as they relate to pathology.  He believes that nothing you do occurs by chance; every action and thought is motivated by your unconscious at some level. In order to live in a civilized society, you have a tendency to hold back our urges and repress our impulses. 

One way these urges and impulses are released is through your dreams. Because the content of the unconscious may be extremely disturbing or harmful, Freud believes that the unconscious expresses itself in a symbolic language. Freud categorizes aspects of the mind into three parts:  
Id - centered around primal impulses, pleasures, desires, unchecked urges and wish fulfillment.  
Ego - concerned with the conscious, the rational, the moral and the self-aware aspect of the mind.  
Superego - the censor for the id, which is also responsible for enforcing the moral codes of the ego. When you are awake,  the impulses and desires of the id are suppressed by the superego. Through dreams, you are able to get a glimpse into your unconscious or the id. Because your guards are down during the dream state, your unconscious has the opportunity to act out and express the hidden desires of the id. However, the desires of the id can, at times, be so disturbing and even psychologically harmful that a "censor" comes into play and translates the id's disturbing content into a more acceptable symbolic form. This helps to preserve sleep and prevent you from waking up shocked at the images. As a result, confusing and cryptic dream images occur.
According to Freud, the reason you struggle to remember your dreams, is because the superego is at work. It is doing its job by protecting the conscious mind from the disturbing images and desires conjured by the unconscious. 

Calvin S. Hall, Jr. (1909-1985) focuses his study of dreams on the content, aptly referred to as content analysis. Because dreams are in essence thoughts, it is a cognitive process. Dreams provide a map or route to the inaccessible regions in your mind, otherwise known as the unconscious. Hall believes dreams are the best way to discovering personal thoughts and to explain your behavior. Dreams reveal things about yourself, not hide them. Hall categorizes dreams into one of five principle areas of life.
1. Concepts of Self refer to the types or number of roles you play in your dreams.
2. Concepts of other people are the roles other people play in your dreams. Consider your feelings toward them and how you interact with them. 
3. Concepts of the world represent the dream surrounding and landscape. The adjectives you use to describe your dreamscape is how you view the world. 
4. Concepts of impulses, prohibitions and penalties indicate your behavior and how it is ruled by impulses and punishment.
5. Concepts of problems and conflicts symbolize your struggles, issues and problems you are facing in your waking life. These dream try to offer insight and resolution to your conflicts.
By utilizing these five concepts, Hall believes that you will be able to analyze the dream content and trace your way toward the inner workings of your unconscious.

Like his mentor Sigmund Freud, Carl Gustav Jung (1875-1960) also believes in the existence of the unconscious. However, he does not see the unconscious as animalistic, instinctual, or sexual; he sees it as more spiritual. Eventually, Jung split with Freud due to their differing views on dreams. 
According to Jung, dreams are a way of communicating and acquainting yourself with the unconscious. Dreams are not attempts to conceal your true feelings from the waking mind, but rather they are a window to your unconscious. They serve to guide the waking self to achieve wholeness and offer a solution to a problem you are facing in your waking life.
Jung views the ego as your sense of self and how you portray yourself to the world.  Part of Jung's theory is that all  things can be viewed as paired opposites: good/evil, male/female, or love/hate. So working in opposition to the ego, is the "counterego" or what he refers to as the shadow.  The shadow represents the rejected aspects of yourself that you do not wish to acknowledge. The shadow is more primitive, somewhat uncultured,  and a little awkward.
 Frederick Perls (1893-1970) iss  the founder of Gestalt therapy.  Gestalt therapy seeks to fill your emotional voids so that you can then become a unified whole. Perls believes that dreams contain the rejected, disowned parts of the Self. Every character and every object in a dream represents an aspect of the Self. You are the hurricane, you are the attacker, you are the broken down car, you are the bridge, and you are the dusty book. Perls rejects the notion that dreams are part of a universal symbolic language. He believes that each dream is unique to the individual who dreams it.
In order to discover what aspect of yourself is being disowned, Perls believes that it is important to retell your dream in the present tense and act it out accordingly. It is important to verbalize how each and every component in your dream felt, even inanimate objects. Reenact the dream and take on the role of the different characters and objects. Start a dialogue with the dream object and express how you felt toward each other.  By taking on a different  role within your dream and reenact it, you may then be able to acknowledge and realize feelings that you may have overlooked or buried. Your dream literally comes alive.

Now the best part...

Here are some common recurring dream motifs and their interpretation:

Pursuit or attack.

The hunter represents a part of ourselves we are afraid of. An extreme version of unacceptable part of our personality, which will benefit us if we expressed it appropriately.

Free fall.

Feel heavy, lack of support, worry about something? How to feel free, lightweight? Maybe we should ‘land’ in reality?

Car out of control.

Is life too fast? Are we losing control of things? How can we get things more slowly and just calmly enjoy the trip?

Unprepared, late, failure to test.

Feel unprepared for an approaching event? Do we worry without reason or really want more preparation to feel more confident and do a good job?

Feeling unable to speak or move.

We feel that we are trapped in our lives with no way out. It goes nowhere and we can’t act according to our true feelings.

Shame of being naked in public, although nobody seems to notice it.

In which part of our life do we feel lack of confidence and skills? The fact that others do not notice our shame means that only we see ourselves like this and usually are wrong about it.

Trapped, locked in.

When do we feel trapped/stuck in life? How to create a new perspective and explore new ways to act?

Unable to see people’s faces but knowing who they are.

This pattern may have several interpretations. It may refer to ourselves, symbolizing the search of our identity, the process of exploring our own personality.
Also it may reflect our relations with other people: feeling alone in the crowd, unable to reach understanding with other people, feeling different from them. According to Sigmund Freud, faces in dreams represent the individuality of people. Seeing the world without faces in our dreams, we deprive the others of their individuality due to our fears, lack of confidence, problems we face dealing with people in our life. It works as a defence mechanism which helps us avoid being hurt by others.

Being lost, unable to reach a destination or fulfill a task.

Dreams of being lost and unable to find the way somewhere speak of frustration. Sometimes we want something or someone to go/act in a certain way, but they don’t. It certainly brings us disappointment and frustration.
Moreover, such kind of dreams may have to do with the feeling of ‘losing’ ourselves. Perhaps, it may be connected with a significant change in our life (for example, a loss of something or someone important for us) or we just feel ‘following a wrong path’. Sometimes our subconscious tries to tell us that what we do is not what we really want from life.

If you want more information on detail dreams, go to http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/

I wish I could remember my dreams... =D

Sunday, May 06, 2012

Life's Not the Same Anymore...

Yes... my life has changed!!! It's much much more than what I expected... 
I am now a MARRIED WOMAN!!!

Gosh, sometimes when I drive to work, I wonder if I'm dreaming... WAHEGURU has been great to me, he has showered me with so much my entire life and now he has given me the most precious gift ever... my dearest husband. He who completes me, loves me and makes everyday magnificent.


By the end of this day, I could not ask for more...
I am so so grateful to god to have lead me to you...
Grateful to give me the perfect person, more than what I had hoped for
Grateful that our families join together in our happiness
Grateful that everything done well by thy grace
Thank you Thank you Thank you